Some items on personal behavior and development
Posted February 26, 2010on:
These are some posts with some good advice about personal behavior and personal development. Just jotting them down for reference. I am always a little skeptical about a lot of the self-help literature, but these items have made me think in one way or another.
From Dumb Little Man
- David Jones on "These Personal Traits That Are More Valuable Than a Nike Endorsement Deal." This post is a reminder of some common sense things like being honest and reliable. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Those kinds of things. I definitely liked the idea that, in a marriage, if you cheat, you should have to apologize to the people who witnessed your ceremony. I am fairly easy-going about what people do when it comes to being intimate, but if you got married, and you signed that contract to be faithful and monogamous, I expect you to honor it. Pure and simple. It's a matter of integrity.
- Kat Eden on "Stop Following 'The Rules' of Your Life and Bring Back the Joy." I like some of the suggestions here, and I wish I could try the concept out.
- Gilbert Ross on "20 Powerful Beliefs That Will Push You Towards Success." This list is one I had an issue or two with. For example, the idea that people are catalysts and not barriers to success made me think he has not met some of the people I have had to work with during my career. I am talking about folks who live to be obstructionists of the highest order. In the end, it is a matter of going around them.
- Vincent Tan on "10 Critical Things You Have to Consider in Life." The one about change is very important, and it is a point that is relevant in librarianship. "Those who fail to change are bound to fail" is certainly true, but I wish in my profession they actually thought about change instead of making changes just for the sake of change or just to jump in some new shiny 2.0 toy bandwagon.
- Mr. Self Development tells us "How to Become More Intelligent." Some good advice here starting with a very obvious one: read often. It is something I enjoy and that I do consistently. He writes, "remember, readers are leaders, and leaders are usually intelligent." I will emphasize the word "usually" in that sentence because, given that many fail to distinguish between a leader and a manager, some "leaders" are not exactly intelligent. Also, be read broadly but be somewhat selective. I guess I am trying to say to be a bit picky about what you read but also open yourself to opposing views, diverse ideas, so on. Strike a balance in your reading.
- Luciano Passuello asks "Are You Stuck in a Rut? Run from the Experts!" The idea here is to meet different kinds of people who may not be experts, but they can give you fresh perspectives.
Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project, on "Eight Tips to Know if You Are Boring." This is a list I wish certain people I know would actually read. However, I do have an issue with her suggestion that interruptions are a sign of engagement. If those interruptions serve to stop a conversation, or worse, drag it on and on in some minor minutae, then I don't think it is a sign of engagement at all.
Ruth Ann Hattori, at the Innovation Weblog, on "The Critical Connection Between Trust, Collaboration and Innovation." I saved this post in large part to have the questions she jots down about trust building, which I find valuable.